Two years ago I took child support out on my child%26#039;s father. He is such a dead beat...the worker sent a letter to his residence in which he 37 years old and still lives at home . His mother calls the worker to reschedule the first appt. and since then he has been missing.. He also got 7 other kids that he havent paid child support for since 3-2006 and that was $6 a piece...I wish I would of known he was like that before I had a baby by him.....But again at the time I was 16 and he was 26 ( which I didnt know that either)...He is able to buy new shoes, cars, and clothes all the time . While me a full time student and worker provides for our child. The government don%26#039;t want to help the people trying ...they feel as if you can afford everything. But the people that don%26#039;t try and just sit at home, they are taking care of..I don%26#039;t want any hand-outs.. I know I am a Strong female...But I want to know when North Carolina%26#039;s Child support system is going to start doing their job, %26amp;find the jerk
What is wrong with the social service child support offices in North Carolina?
$6.00 a piece - oh my gosh - it wouldn%26#039;t be worth my trouble trying to get anything from a lowlife from him. He will always be like this - you can%26#039;t get money from somebody that doesn%26#039;t have it... he doesn%26#039;t own anything or have any money.
but, if you don%26#039;t think the child support services are doing there job - do some investigating yourself. call his relatives - don%26#039;t tell them who you are - find out where he works or where he lives - and then give that info to the C.S office - they can%26#039;t go hunt him down if they don%26#039;t know where he lives.
you know his friends - you know his parents - you know his relatives - So -become an investigator!
Reply:Well I want to know when Tennessee%26#039;s Juvenile Court system is going to start doing their jobs too. I don%26#039;t have any children but my boyfriend does and he is on child support. They take over half of his pay check every pay period which leaves him with hardly any money to live off of. He loves his kids and wants to take care of them but he needs to be allowed to take care of himself as well. He has tried to set court dates to get it lowered but they always give him a stupid @ss reason as to why they cannot set a court date for him. I feel bad for him that he can%26#039;t afford to do a lot of the simple things like buy clothes and shoes for himself and keep gas in his car. I think that whole system is screwed and people on both sides of the fence get played and can%26#039;t benefit from it. There needs to be some harsh regulations against those that do not do what they are suppose to do and some rewards for those who do abide by the rules. However, I don%26#039;t see that happening anytime soon though. Good luck.
Reply:Well I want to know when the crappy county of San Bernardino is going to get it%26#039;s Child Support System right.. his cow of an ex AND her sleazy attorney.. filed a temporary order 2 years ago that has my fiance paying support for TWO children and they only have ONE!!! We have shown them the proof and they say they understand but because it is a temporary order there is NOTHING they can do... so my fiance is being garnished for 2780$ a month and he doesn%26#039;t even make that!!!!! So every month they take all but 400$ of his checks and he is STILL going in arrears for about 1500$ and the cow sits on her butt living with mommy and daddy, refuses to let him have contact with his daughter and won%26#039;t do anything to finish the divorce because her lawyer has told her once there is a real support order her gravy train is over and she will have to pay him back all that he has over paid..
The system is completely jacked up and we are paying for it (literally)
beauty
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
How do you start a clothing business/fashion line?
Branding your clothing line? How do you start a clothing business? How much do buisness owners earn? How much do clothing line owners earn? How much does id cost to start a clothing company? How much does is cost to start a clothing line? How much does it cost to sart a clothing line? How much does it cost to start a shoe line? How much it cost to start a clothes line? How much to start a clothing line? If you have your own designs for a line of children%26#039;s clothing where can you have it made? Start a clothing line? What is need to start a clothing line? What is the minimum investment to start a clothing line? What kind of money will you need to start a clothing line?
How do you start a clothing business/fashion line?
Go to http://www.score.org/ and in the upper left hand corner, enter your zip code. On the next screen, you will get information on the nearest SCORE chapter. Call them and arrange for a free meeting with a SCORE counselor.
SCORE is a nonprofit association dedicated to entrepreneur education and the formation, growth and success of small business nationwide. SCORE is a resource partner with the U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA).
SCORE has 389 chapters in locations throughout the United States and its territories, with 10,500 volunteers nationwide. Both working and retired executives and business owners donate time and expertise as business counselors.
Reply:Clothing is an incredibly difficult industry to profit from. You will have to do research to find all of your costs. Where will the clothing be manufactured, are you planning on designing everything yourself? Where will you be selling these clothes? You need to research all of these things. Most clothing companies suffer huge losses for the first 5 years of operation, in fact clothing lines have the second highest degree of failure from startups (#1 is restaurants). You mention that your target audience is children, are you ready to make entire lines of designs four times a year? You need to have your line ready to sell at least one sometimes two seasons in advance. You may want to start out by finding a local screen printer and making shirts based off your designs, that way then try selling locally. It looks easy to start a clothing line when you see celebrities opening them left and right, but remember they have millions at their disposal. So what you need to look at first is the supply chain.
If you are designing the clothes yourself, if so are they designs in a format the manufacturer can use?
Which textile company are you going to use, are they going to put logos, designs on themselves or is a seperate company going to do it? Do you need screen printing or embroidery on top of that? How will the clothes be delivered to you? Where will they be stored once you have them? Who will sell your clothes? How will you get them to the stores? How do you get paid from the stores?
It all sounds very negative, but these are just things you have to overcome, one step at a time. Build quality relationships with the whole supply chain and all of your kindness will come back to you on your product from design to market. Good luck!!
Reply:O.K. Here it goes. Just a few things to keep in mind.
First you need to know how much is the cost per unit.
$5.00 a unit??? does it include hang tags, company label, price tags, bar code and polybag.
Will it be shipped all together or will it be boxed by style, size or combination of both.
Then you need to add your shipping cost.
the cost manufacturing company will charge to ship items to you.
Freight or airway?? (FOB) airway is more expensive but you will get your items quicker.
Then there is customs duty.
Depends on the fabric and customs code.
Usually $16.5% of the invoice. but can go up to 19% depending on the country you are importing from.
If you are ordering more than $2,000 you will also, need a broker as customs will not release your items without an entry on invoices more than $2000 and a broker will provide the customs entry forms as well as making sure your order is released from customs.
So, you will need to add $150-$200 for brokers fees.
See http://www.cbp.gov for details.
Then you will have to add expenses....
Cost of internet service if you are selling on line.
Cost of electricity, etc...etc... (Cost of running your company)
Cost of storage if any.
Payroll (paying employees if any or paying yourself)
You get the picture.
I hope that this has helped.
If you have any questions we are happy to help as we were exactly were you are now a couple of years ago.
Mr. Soba
President %26amp; CEO
SOBAWEAR, LLC
http://www.sobawear.com
knode-devel
How do you start a clothing business/fashion line?
Go to http://www.score.org/ and in the upper left hand corner, enter your zip code. On the next screen, you will get information on the nearest SCORE chapter. Call them and arrange for a free meeting with a SCORE counselor.
SCORE is a nonprofit association dedicated to entrepreneur education and the formation, growth and success of small business nationwide. SCORE is a resource partner with the U.S. Small Business Administration (SBA).
SCORE has 389 chapters in locations throughout the United States and its territories, with 10,500 volunteers nationwide. Both working and retired executives and business owners donate time and expertise as business counselors.
Reply:Clothing is an incredibly difficult industry to profit from. You will have to do research to find all of your costs. Where will the clothing be manufactured, are you planning on designing everything yourself? Where will you be selling these clothes? You need to research all of these things. Most clothing companies suffer huge losses for the first 5 years of operation, in fact clothing lines have the second highest degree of failure from startups (#1 is restaurants). You mention that your target audience is children, are you ready to make entire lines of designs four times a year? You need to have your line ready to sell at least one sometimes two seasons in advance. You may want to start out by finding a local screen printer and making shirts based off your designs, that way then try selling locally. It looks easy to start a clothing line when you see celebrities opening them left and right, but remember they have millions at their disposal. So what you need to look at first is the supply chain.
If you are designing the clothes yourself, if so are they designs in a format the manufacturer can use?
Which textile company are you going to use, are they going to put logos, designs on themselves or is a seperate company going to do it? Do you need screen printing or embroidery on top of that? How will the clothes be delivered to you? Where will they be stored once you have them? Who will sell your clothes? How will you get them to the stores? How do you get paid from the stores?
It all sounds very negative, but these are just things you have to overcome, one step at a time. Build quality relationships with the whole supply chain and all of your kindness will come back to you on your product from design to market. Good luck!!
Reply:O.K. Here it goes. Just a few things to keep in mind.
First you need to know how much is the cost per unit.
$5.00 a unit??? does it include hang tags, company label, price tags, bar code and polybag.
Will it be shipped all together or will it be boxed by style, size or combination of both.
Then you need to add your shipping cost.
the cost manufacturing company will charge to ship items to you.
Freight or airway?? (FOB) airway is more expensive but you will get your items quicker.
Then there is customs duty.
Depends on the fabric and customs code.
Usually $16.5% of the invoice. but can go up to 19% depending on the country you are importing from.
If you are ordering more than $2,000 you will also, need a broker as customs will not release your items without an entry on invoices more than $2000 and a broker will provide the customs entry forms as well as making sure your order is released from customs.
So, you will need to add $150-$200 for brokers fees.
See http://www.cbp.gov for details.
Then you will have to add expenses....
Cost of internet service if you are selling on line.
Cost of electricity, etc...etc... (Cost of running your company)
Cost of storage if any.
Payroll (paying employees if any or paying yourself)
You get the picture.
I hope that this has helped.
If you have any questions we are happy to help as we were exactly were you are now a couple of years ago.
Mr. Soba
President %26amp; CEO
SOBAWEAR, LLC
http://www.sobawear.com
knode-devel
Middleschool horror story project- did it scare you?
It was private property, but kids used to trespass there all the time. But no one ever trespassed there any more. Not since that kid vanished, not since all of those scary stories and rumors rushed from there in a tidal wave of fear and confusion.
We had never thought twice about the spillway. It never occurred to us to even go there, that was, until we were warned not to.
Jake’s mom told us that we could play anywhere but there. We knew about the kid who vanished there, without a trace. But there was nothing supernatural about it. They could’ve been kidnapped or had fallen in the river. I didn’t understand why his mother believed all of those rumors, I assumed that was why she didn’t want us to go there.
We ran outside, Jake, his sister Mari and I. Mari spread her arms and ran about, imitating an airplane. Jake looked down on her. I laughed and watched.
We stayed close to the house and played for a short while. I was the one who cut the fun short.
“Let’s go to the waterway.” I said.
There was a silence, their young eyes staring wide.
“…Ok,” said Jake after a long pause, covering his fear. He began to walk down the long dirt path. Mari followed obediently, and I picked up my pace to lead the way.
“Aren’t we not allowed?” asked Mari nervously as the spillway came into view.
“No, it’s fine,” I said. The air became very still, yet the leaves stirred and rustled slightly; pulled by tiny invisible strings of air. We climbed over the fence; Jake helped Mari make it over.
The hill behind the fence was steep, weeds and dirt descended into jagged rocks and water.
“This place isn’t scary at all!” bluffed Jake, slipping down the steep muddy path carved down the hill. Small, worn down footprints were already in the mud. Where they the child’s? Or some other trespasser’s? Mari and I followed behind him. We were filled with nervous excitement, perhaps feeling more enjoyment than fear, and fearing breaking the rules more than the place itself. As we reached the stream, we took off our shoes, jumped from rock to rock, playfully dipping our toes into the freezing water and overreacting to the sudden change in temperature. Soon we forgot that anyone had ever vanished there.
Jake stood on one of the lager rocks, beating his chest and crying out a jungle call. Mari laughed and laughed.
“Ok, ok, it wasn’t that funny!” shouted Jake from atop of his rock. Mari continued to laugh. I wondered if she was trying to annoy her brother. She just wouldn’t stop.
Mari continued to laugh for another minute, and Jake was getting angry.
“Shut up!” he yelled.
I glanced at Mari, not really annoyed but puzzled. Then I noticed something odd. She had a troubled look on her face, as if she thought something was wrong, as if she couldn’t control her laughing. Then I noticed that as time passed, her laugh became louder and more hysterical, it began shaking her so hard that she had trouble keeping her balance upon the rock.
“STOP LAUGHING!” Jake called out angrily. He jumped off of his rock and marched angrily to her. He grabbed her shoulders and shook her. She continued to laugh; it was no use. Jake sighed and let go; but as he let go, she began to fall backwards, not regaining her balance. It happened quicker than any of us could help.
All we could do was watch as the event unfolded, paralyzed, eyes wide, hearts nearly stopped. It happened so fast, yet it felt excruciatingly slow.
Mari’s thin dark hair flew forward as her delicate body fell the opposite direction. As her body met the ground, she bounced back and then settled, her limbs splayed lifelessly across the ground. White, pointed growths shot through her body like bamboo shoots, their tips stained with blood, her clothes dyed red. Her eyes were half open and rolled back into her head. Just when we thought she was dead; she lifted her head as far as her pinned-down body would let her. She opened her mouth and continued to laugh weakly, the spikes moving in and out as her chest expanded and contracted. Each laugh sounded bubbly and liquid as blood gushed from her mouth. And every small laugh was weaker than the last, and soon they died away completely. Her head fell back harshly against the ground, creating a halo of slick, gooey blood around her head. She had died.
“Ahh…AHHHHHHH!” Jake screamed miserably, running blindly up the hill, slipping and scrambling to his feet. He screamed an agonizing, piercing scream that sounded as if he himself were dying. I still couldn’t move, for I was petrified.
I looked up the hill in a daze, averting my eyes from Mari’s corpse. Jake was at the top of the hill, but he seemed to be clawing and fighting the air, as if some invisible thing were standing in his way. I had to run. I had to run. Why couldn’t I run?
“What are you?!” Jake cried, thrashing at the nothingness. Suddenly he was cut short as a huge, gaping hole grew through his back, blood and insides pouring like waterfalls, multiple holes spontaneously emerging through his soft body in all directions until he became a pulp, and fell lifelessly down the hill, head first.
I have to get out. Why couldn’t I get out? My eyes were wide, my heartbeat so hard and pounding that it felt like it would burst. Jake’s headfirst body crashed into the rocks with a sharp cracking noise, his limbs bending in strange directions, his eyes were as wide as mine. Tears rolled down my cheeks, I crouched into an upright fetal position and shook violently.
“No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no” I murmured.
Suddenly, my head lifted up on its own, forcing me to look forward. I couldn’t control it.
It was a grotesque deer-like creature, with massive, deformed antlers that had grown in a gnarled mass; hundreds of points and branches of the antlers intertwined and stuck out like blades. The monster’s face was long and bone white, resembling a skull more than a face. It was oddly human-like, yet not, and it had no eyes, just a shadowy suggestion of an eye on the right side of its face. Its body was much larger than a deer- hairy, bulky yet awkward and thin, bony and stiff, almost zombie-like, with gashes and flesh exposed all over. It smelled like death, looked like death. It looked almost unreal, as if it were a nightmare.
“Who are you?” I asked shakily.
“I am you,” said the beast. Its voice was Mari’s.
Middleschool horror story project- did it scare you?
lol this is pretty interesting but be much better in some ways
skin spots
We had never thought twice about the spillway. It never occurred to us to even go there, that was, until we were warned not to.
Jake’s mom told us that we could play anywhere but there. We knew about the kid who vanished there, without a trace. But there was nothing supernatural about it. They could’ve been kidnapped or had fallen in the river. I didn’t understand why his mother believed all of those rumors, I assumed that was why she didn’t want us to go there.
We ran outside, Jake, his sister Mari and I. Mari spread her arms and ran about, imitating an airplane. Jake looked down on her. I laughed and watched.
We stayed close to the house and played for a short while. I was the one who cut the fun short.
“Let’s go to the waterway.” I said.
There was a silence, their young eyes staring wide.
“…Ok,” said Jake after a long pause, covering his fear. He began to walk down the long dirt path. Mari followed obediently, and I picked up my pace to lead the way.
“Aren’t we not allowed?” asked Mari nervously as the spillway came into view.
“No, it’s fine,” I said. The air became very still, yet the leaves stirred and rustled slightly; pulled by tiny invisible strings of air. We climbed over the fence; Jake helped Mari make it over.
The hill behind the fence was steep, weeds and dirt descended into jagged rocks and water.
“This place isn’t scary at all!” bluffed Jake, slipping down the steep muddy path carved down the hill. Small, worn down footprints were already in the mud. Where they the child’s? Or some other trespasser’s? Mari and I followed behind him. We were filled with nervous excitement, perhaps feeling more enjoyment than fear, and fearing breaking the rules more than the place itself. As we reached the stream, we took off our shoes, jumped from rock to rock, playfully dipping our toes into the freezing water and overreacting to the sudden change in temperature. Soon we forgot that anyone had ever vanished there.
Jake stood on one of the lager rocks, beating his chest and crying out a jungle call. Mari laughed and laughed.
“Ok, ok, it wasn’t that funny!” shouted Jake from atop of his rock. Mari continued to laugh. I wondered if she was trying to annoy her brother. She just wouldn’t stop.
Mari continued to laugh for another minute, and Jake was getting angry.
“Shut up!” he yelled.
I glanced at Mari, not really annoyed but puzzled. Then I noticed something odd. She had a troubled look on her face, as if she thought something was wrong, as if she couldn’t control her laughing. Then I noticed that as time passed, her laugh became louder and more hysterical, it began shaking her so hard that she had trouble keeping her balance upon the rock.
“STOP LAUGHING!” Jake called out angrily. He jumped off of his rock and marched angrily to her. He grabbed her shoulders and shook her. She continued to laugh; it was no use. Jake sighed and let go; but as he let go, she began to fall backwards, not regaining her balance. It happened quicker than any of us could help.
All we could do was watch as the event unfolded, paralyzed, eyes wide, hearts nearly stopped. It happened so fast, yet it felt excruciatingly slow.
Mari’s thin dark hair flew forward as her delicate body fell the opposite direction. As her body met the ground, she bounced back and then settled, her limbs splayed lifelessly across the ground. White, pointed growths shot through her body like bamboo shoots, their tips stained with blood, her clothes dyed red. Her eyes were half open and rolled back into her head. Just when we thought she was dead; she lifted her head as far as her pinned-down body would let her. She opened her mouth and continued to laugh weakly, the spikes moving in and out as her chest expanded and contracted. Each laugh sounded bubbly and liquid as blood gushed from her mouth. And every small laugh was weaker than the last, and soon they died away completely. Her head fell back harshly against the ground, creating a halo of slick, gooey blood around her head. She had died.
“Ahh…AHHHHHHH!” Jake screamed miserably, running blindly up the hill, slipping and scrambling to his feet. He screamed an agonizing, piercing scream that sounded as if he himself were dying. I still couldn’t move, for I was petrified.
I looked up the hill in a daze, averting my eyes from Mari’s corpse. Jake was at the top of the hill, but he seemed to be clawing and fighting the air, as if some invisible thing were standing in his way. I had to run. I had to run. Why couldn’t I run?
“What are you?!” Jake cried, thrashing at the nothingness. Suddenly he was cut short as a huge, gaping hole grew through his back, blood and insides pouring like waterfalls, multiple holes spontaneously emerging through his soft body in all directions until he became a pulp, and fell lifelessly down the hill, head first.
I have to get out. Why couldn’t I get out? My eyes were wide, my heartbeat so hard and pounding that it felt like it would burst. Jake’s headfirst body crashed into the rocks with a sharp cracking noise, his limbs bending in strange directions, his eyes were as wide as mine. Tears rolled down my cheeks, I crouched into an upright fetal position and shook violently.
“No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no” I murmured.
Suddenly, my head lifted up on its own, forcing me to look forward. I couldn’t control it.
It was a grotesque deer-like creature, with massive, deformed antlers that had grown in a gnarled mass; hundreds of points and branches of the antlers intertwined and stuck out like blades. The monster’s face was long and bone white, resembling a skull more than a face. It was oddly human-like, yet not, and it had no eyes, just a shadowy suggestion of an eye on the right side of its face. Its body was much larger than a deer- hairy, bulky yet awkward and thin, bony and stiff, almost zombie-like, with gashes and flesh exposed all over. It smelled like death, looked like death. It looked almost unreal, as if it were a nightmare.
“Who are you?” I asked shakily.
“I am you,” said the beast. Its voice was Mari’s.
Middleschool horror story project- did it scare you?
lol this is pretty interesting but be much better in some ways
skin spots
Do you know what Operation Christmas Child is?
Every year, millions of shoe boxes filled with basic things (pencils, paper, soap, toothbrushes, etc.) are sent throughout the world to children.
I got involved a few years ago and got totally addicted! Collecting items all year is so fun, coming up with unique and useful things to send the children.
If you%26#039;ve never heard of this, or have and want more information, please do yourself (and a needy child) a favor, log on to Samaritans Purse%26#039;s website; www.samaritanspurse.org today and check it out!
Make a child%26#039;s day...
Collection begins November 12th and ends November 19th.
Do you know what Operation Christmas Child is?
Wow.. that is a great charity! : )
I will definitely do that and have my 2 small girls [ages 3 and 5 yrs. old] help me fill them!
: )
Thanks for that great info...!!
: )
: )
Reply:Yes I do,its a great charity! Do you know approximately half a million children in the USA go without Christmas because they have no one to sponsor them?Well its true.
Reply:my church marantha chapel, a calvary chapel costa mesa affliate participates in anything samartian purse
i was unable to do it this year, but i do stuff for my daughters class so, i think God will honor that
Reply:we%26#039;re doing that in my school this year..i think its a great idea.
last year my junior hs collected shoes in good condition.
Reply:thanx for the reminder, we rec%26#039;d info at church back in Sept, let it slip my mind!
such a great way to remind our kids of the true meaning of the season while not emptying our wallets in the process.
We%26#039;ve done it in the past, I take the kids to the store and for the most part let them pick out the items and we double check that all choices are acceptable from the list and purchase............
I have been surprised that the kids were both surprised at how much can fit into the boxes (we usually buy the %26#039;plastic%26#039; show boxes with the attached lids) and we are always surprised at what we spend. Makes them realize their list should short and prioritized.......
Reply:I do this every year with my church :)
And I always do the older kids because people forget about them.
acne cure
I got involved a few years ago and got totally addicted! Collecting items all year is so fun, coming up with unique and useful things to send the children.
If you%26#039;ve never heard of this, or have and want more information, please do yourself (and a needy child) a favor, log on to Samaritans Purse%26#039;s website; www.samaritanspurse.org today and check it out!
Make a child%26#039;s day...
Collection begins November 12th and ends November 19th.
Do you know what Operation Christmas Child is?
Wow.. that is a great charity! : )
I will definitely do that and have my 2 small girls [ages 3 and 5 yrs. old] help me fill them!
: )
Thanks for that great info...!!
: )
: )
Reply:Yes I do,its a great charity! Do you know approximately half a million children in the USA go without Christmas because they have no one to sponsor them?Well its true.
Reply:my church marantha chapel, a calvary chapel costa mesa affliate participates in anything samartian purse
i was unable to do it this year, but i do stuff for my daughters class so, i think God will honor that
Reply:we%26#039;re doing that in my school this year..i think its a great idea.
last year my junior hs collected shoes in good condition.
Reply:thanx for the reminder, we rec%26#039;d info at church back in Sept, let it slip my mind!
such a great way to remind our kids of the true meaning of the season while not emptying our wallets in the process.
We%26#039;ve done it in the past, I take the kids to the store and for the most part let them pick out the items and we double check that all choices are acceptable from the list and purchase............
I have been surprised that the kids were both surprised at how much can fit into the boxes (we usually buy the %26#039;plastic%26#039; show boxes with the attached lids) and we are always surprised at what we spend. Makes them realize their list should short and prioritized.......
Reply:I do this every year with my church :)
And I always do the older kids because people forget about them.
acne cure
This list any good to present in court?
Is this list any good to show to a lawyer, in a child costody battle?
1. Several counts of harassing phone calls to the Defendant.
2. Also several calls to the child in question, making him cry and requiring him to talk to her in solitude.
3. On numerous occasions the Defendant received phone calls from the child, crying, wanting to come back to the Defendants residence after events at his mother’s residence.
4. Said the Defendant was not allowing the child to be an individual; which in her case meant: being a “gangster”, sagging pants, tattoos, piercings, and listening to vulgar and inappropriate music.
5. The Plaintiff has purchased and allowed the purchase of vulgar CD’s.
6. The Plaintiff has no religious practices in her home.
7. Has told the child that Hell is an imaginary place, made up to frighten people into complying with the law, which gives the child the impression that he can misbehave without consequence.
8. The Plaintiff’s husband has been known to slap the child and the other children in the house in the back of the head. This being one of the reasons the child had called his father to come and pick him up.
9. The Plaintiff’s eldest son was seeing a therapist for anger issues.
10. The Plaintiff also has left the child and his brother unattended, where they walked from their home to a GoodWill store and a BlockBuster and back unnoticed.
11. The Plaintiff also has left her children in the care of an irresponsible babysitter, who the child said hit him in the face with a shoe.
12. Member of the Plaintiff’s immediate family was arrested for being associated with drug dealers.
13. The Plaintiff has had numerous episodes where she shouted at and used profane language with the Defendant, where the Defendant neither shouted back nor used profane language, in front of the child.
14. The child’s unsatisfactory behavior started as early as the first grade, while he was in his mother’s care. Such as: getting kicked off the bus, bad homework habits, and unsatisfactory grades, failing both first and third grade.
15. Recently the Plaintiff withheld the child from a church event (vacation bible school).
16. The Plaintiff has three children from three different men and four marriages, one of which was annulled one or two weeks later. The man she is married to now is the same man who abandoned her and her eldest son. Also is guilty of several counts of adultery.
17. The Plaintiff has no visible means of financial support other than a mentally disabled man, who has no relation to her and lives in her home.
18. The Plaintiff has not paid any form of child support or financial obligation as required by the parenting plan.
This list any good to present in court?
very long list....but a good list.
the one thing I would add is, where applicable, dates and times. like items 1, 2 %26amp; 3...dates and times
and for the future - keep answering machine message tape to substantiate the dates and times - so he can%26#039;t deny.
#4- i am sure you don%26#039;t mean the child is a gangster...reword it to say the he called her that name based upon her appearances (ie saggy...)
#5 - give examples of names of cd%26#039;s and songs
#6 %26amp; #7 - add these together in one paragraph...they reference the same ideal.
#8- you need dates, times and actual events....you cannot use hearsay.
#9-get the name of the therapist so that they can get the records if needed
#10 %26amp; #11- you need specific daes and times of these events
#12- state how this will impact the child and his environment
#13 - dates %26amp; times and specifics and any wittnesses
#14- school records etc are needed for these accusations - get them!
#15- you said above that they were not religous, so they withheld you religious events? did they withhold visitation from you? expand on this point...dates, times and events
#16 - list details if you know them...it is not against man%26#039;s laws for adultry....but certainly goes to her reputation. speaking of that...can you get notarized statements from her neighbors as to her character?
#17- no visible means of support? welfare? disability? make sure you know.
#18 - Great.
Now in addition to this , it may be advisable to prepare a chart (maybe on excel) Use one column stating the above items as we have discussed and the other column would be you---what you can do to rectify the situation if the child came to live with you. Make everything as objective and positive as possible.
you main objective should be the child living with you in stable environment. (Financially, mentally, etc) and if you do get primary custody make sure you get $$child support.
since you are the %26#039;guy%26#039; - unfortunately you need to go the extra yard...mile --whatever...don%26#039;t forget to list if you have a job....it goes to credibility and stabality
Good luck...
hope this helps.
Reply:They sound good to me. Hopefully the judge won%26#039;t be a jerk and will make the right decision.
Reply:depends on tough the judge in the case is, in family law some times they will lax the law of evidence, but some times not
hence the problem with your list is much if not the majority is what called Hearsay and inadmissible in a court of law, there are exceptions to the rule so maybe some might be allowed
Reply:sounds interesting! do you have proof? you can present any list you want, but without proof it means NOTHING! hope you have a REALLY GOOD lawyer, sounds like you%26#039;re gonna need one!
also, check into the court appointed representative for the child. i think it%26#039;s called gaurdian ad lightem (something like that).. depending on the age of the child, the judge may ask to speak with the child personally.
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1. Several counts of harassing phone calls to the Defendant.
2. Also several calls to the child in question, making him cry and requiring him to talk to her in solitude.
3. On numerous occasions the Defendant received phone calls from the child, crying, wanting to come back to the Defendants residence after events at his mother’s residence.
4. Said the Defendant was not allowing the child to be an individual; which in her case meant: being a “gangster”, sagging pants, tattoos, piercings, and listening to vulgar and inappropriate music.
5. The Plaintiff has purchased and allowed the purchase of vulgar CD’s.
6. The Plaintiff has no religious practices in her home.
7. Has told the child that Hell is an imaginary place, made up to frighten people into complying with the law, which gives the child the impression that he can misbehave without consequence.
8. The Plaintiff’s husband has been known to slap the child and the other children in the house in the back of the head. This being one of the reasons the child had called his father to come and pick him up.
9. The Plaintiff’s eldest son was seeing a therapist for anger issues.
10. The Plaintiff also has left the child and his brother unattended, where they walked from their home to a GoodWill store and a BlockBuster and back unnoticed.
11. The Plaintiff also has left her children in the care of an irresponsible babysitter, who the child said hit him in the face with a shoe.
12. Member of the Plaintiff’s immediate family was arrested for being associated with drug dealers.
13. The Plaintiff has had numerous episodes where she shouted at and used profane language with the Defendant, where the Defendant neither shouted back nor used profane language, in front of the child.
14. The child’s unsatisfactory behavior started as early as the first grade, while he was in his mother’s care. Such as: getting kicked off the bus, bad homework habits, and unsatisfactory grades, failing both first and third grade.
15. Recently the Plaintiff withheld the child from a church event (vacation bible school).
16. The Plaintiff has three children from three different men and four marriages, one of which was annulled one or two weeks later. The man she is married to now is the same man who abandoned her and her eldest son. Also is guilty of several counts of adultery.
17. The Plaintiff has no visible means of financial support other than a mentally disabled man, who has no relation to her and lives in her home.
18. The Plaintiff has not paid any form of child support or financial obligation as required by the parenting plan.
This list any good to present in court?
very long list....but a good list.
the one thing I would add is, where applicable, dates and times. like items 1, 2 %26amp; 3...dates and times
and for the future - keep answering machine message tape to substantiate the dates and times - so he can%26#039;t deny.
#4- i am sure you don%26#039;t mean the child is a gangster...reword it to say the he called her that name based upon her appearances (ie saggy...)
#5 - give examples of names of cd%26#039;s and songs
#6 %26amp; #7 - add these together in one paragraph...they reference the same ideal.
#8- you need dates, times and actual events....you cannot use hearsay.
#9-get the name of the therapist so that they can get the records if needed
#10 %26amp; #11- you need specific daes and times of these events
#12- state how this will impact the child and his environment
#13 - dates %26amp; times and specifics and any wittnesses
#14- school records etc are needed for these accusations - get them!
#15- you said above that they were not religous, so they withheld you religious events? did they withhold visitation from you? expand on this point...dates, times and events
#16 - list details if you know them...it is not against man%26#039;s laws for adultry....but certainly goes to her reputation. speaking of that...can you get notarized statements from her neighbors as to her character?
#17- no visible means of support? welfare? disability? make sure you know.
#18 - Great.
Now in addition to this , it may be advisable to prepare a chart (maybe on excel) Use one column stating the above items as we have discussed and the other column would be you---what you can do to rectify the situation if the child came to live with you. Make everything as objective and positive as possible.
you main objective should be the child living with you in stable environment. (Financially, mentally, etc) and if you do get primary custody make sure you get $$child support.
since you are the %26#039;guy%26#039; - unfortunately you need to go the extra yard...mile --whatever...don%26#039;t forget to list if you have a job....it goes to credibility and stabality
Good luck...
hope this helps.
Reply:They sound good to me. Hopefully the judge won%26#039;t be a jerk and will make the right decision.
Reply:depends on tough the judge in the case is, in family law some times they will lax the law of evidence, but some times not
hence the problem with your list is much if not the majority is what called Hearsay and inadmissible in a court of law, there are exceptions to the rule so maybe some might be allowed
Reply:sounds interesting! do you have proof? you can present any list you want, but without proof it means NOTHING! hope you have a REALLY GOOD lawyer, sounds like you%26#039;re gonna need one!
also, check into the court appointed representative for the child. i think it%26#039;s called gaurdian ad lightem (something like that).. depending on the age of the child, the judge may ask to speak with the child personally.
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How do I get my 8 month old lab to stop chewing up EVERYTHING?
His chewing has increased recently- has ruined 3 pairs of shoes, remote control, cell phone, numerous barbie dolls (his favorite), ate a candle, even demolishes his own toys and often eats the pieces. I try to keep things put up- but he even will climb on the furniture to get to things that are out of reach. I don%26#039;t know what else to do. Please help- replacing my child%26#039;s dolls is becoming expensive and I worry if he continues to eat the materials he could be harmed.
How do I get my 8 month old lab to stop chewing up EVERYTHING?
Labs are world-class chewers and they need things to chew on. They can%26#039;t help it..it%26#039;s just instinct.
You need to get him things that he can use to satisify his chewing urge.
Those big dog bones from the animal shop are good. Don%26#039;t get a butcher shop bone, though, they can splinter.
My dogs also LOVE their Kong toys..and you can put treats or peanut butter in them and that keeps them busy for hours.
There are very few toys my dogs can play with without tearing them up.
Those rope bone tug toys are also good, for a while, anyway.
Don%26#039;t bother with squeaky toys. Your dog will chew them up just to get at the squeaker.
On, and as for getting on the furniture, your dog is not well-trained enough to be running around the house on his own and stealing things. Next, he%26#039;ll EAT the furniture. Trust me. My lab ate up a whole section of carpeting when he was a pup.
You need to confine him to a room where he can%26#039;t do too much harm when you aren%26#039;t able to watch him. When you are able to be with him, you have to teach him the meaning of the word no.
Keep a leash on him. When he goes to get on the furniture, tug it and tell him NO. Never, ever allow him on the furniture, because he%26#039;ll take that as a sign of equality with you. You are the boss.
And keep things out of sight. Out of sight, out of mind. If your daughter%26#039;s Barbies are in a toy chest with a lid sealed, your dog won%26#039;t get to them. If your shoes are in the closet with the door shut, he can%26#039;t chew them.
And if he%26#039;s chewing on something, yell NO and take it away from him, even if by then it%26#039;s ruined. And then give him something he%26#039;s allowed to chew on and praise him for chewing on that instead.
Oh, and my vet says labs don%26#039;t have brains until they%26#039;re about two years old..and then it%26#039;s like the mailman suddenly delivered them.
My lab%26#039;s four years old now and he%26#039;s an angel. My shepherd mix is two, and she%26#039;s pretty good too. However, they are still known to chew up a dog toy or frisbee now and then. So hang in there. Your dog%26#039;s just doing what%26#039;s normal to him..you just have to be smarter.
Reply:we have a lab that used to do the same thing until we got him some pressed rawhides. they dont look like regular rawhides, they are actually formed by using little bits of rawhides encased in a really hard shell
Reply:Welcome to Lab world. Sounds like he%26#039;s bored. An 8 month old need lots of stimulation and activity. He needs to be confined to certain rooms in the house when you are not with him.
I%26#039;m sure he has toys and chew things that belong to him. One thing to do is to get a Kong toy - the black ones are made for large dogs and are almost indestructible- fill it with good stuff and when you catch him chewing something he shouldn%26#039;t , tell him to Leave it and trade for the Kong Toy.
I would definitely enroll him in a dog class. It does wonders for you and your dog. You will learn how to interact with him and give him the proper cues to do what you expect.
Also, be mindful that labs tend to maintain their puppy ways for quite some time - up to 2 years or sometimes longer. They are great dogs, but desparately need training, activity and positive attention.
Good luck to both of you.
Reply:I have a 3 month old black lab and its the same way, everytime I see him he is chewing on something. You just have to keep saying no and crate him when he is bad so he knows that he gets punished for chewing.
Reply:I have a black Lab, and when we first got him he was about 8mnths old too. It just takes time. He doesn%26#039;t chew like crazy anymore. I think it stops when he turns one. Just lock him up in a crate when you leave, and when you%26#039;re not going to be able to keep a close eye on him. My dog loved chewing up sticks, GIJoe dolls, and any stuffed animals. We would see the eyes lying out in the yard the next day! It should be over soon! Just hold in there!
Reply:Ah yes, welcome to owning a lab - They eat everything and anything they can get their paws on! Most items will make they%26#039;re way out the other end in 24 hours time, just make sure you get him to a vet right away if isn%26#039;t going #2 regularly because he might have something blocking his intestines.
You can try Bitter Apple spray, but my lab likes that too (He eats apples off the ground under the tree). Or try a dab of Tabasco on anything you don%26#039;t want him to touch. Otherwise, the best solution is training, training and more training.
Reply:2 things here to do. #1. Remove the accessibility factor. Don%26#039;t leave these around that the dog chews. Put shoes in a closet or shut your bedroom door. Make sure the children put the toys away and out of reach of the dog. #2. Give your dog plenty of his own toys. Labs are notorious chewers, and even if you take temptations away and leave him no/not enough toys, he WILL find something-the corner of a couch, a chair leg, etc. A variety of different type toys need to be available(stuffed toys, rawhides, nylabones, ropes, etc) and if you see him chewing on something hes not supposed to, take that away and offer a toy instead- when he takes it, PRAISE him! My dog was very %26quot;mouthy%26quot; as a puppy, grabbing at our hands etc, and every time he did, i put a toy in his mouth. Now at age 2, when he gets excited and wants to play, he looks around and finds a toy and come back to us- its become a habit for him.
Reply:Oh the memories.... LOL!
Dogs basically chew out of boredom. Like others have said, buy durable toys (like Kongs) that the dog can%26#039;t destruct. Some have the incredible ability to demolish those too (amazingly enough). Try to take your dog for a walk daily. I know in some places it is near impossible now, but try to get your dog out to release some energy.
The key is to redirect their focus on something else. Kongs with peanut butter inside %26amp; nylabones are my favorite. Also, if your dog is going to be unattended, make sure you have a crate or somewhere you can confine him so he isn%26#039;t left alone to destroy more things!
Good luck!
Reply:NEUTER FIRST,, then obedience classes,,,, then lots and lots of exercise - retrieving, swimming, running....... next get a bucket or basket.... put it in a place in your home that the dog has access too.... fill it up with appropriate toys, tennis balls, bones, nylabones, kongs etc... when you dog starts chewing innappropriately,, say %26quot;UT UH%26quot; in a loud stern voice,,, remove the undesirable object and then take him over to %26quot;his%26quot; toy bucket.. and offer him /show him %26quot;his toys%26quot; this will only take a day or two to teach...... also,,, if you are not home,, crate your pup.. dogs are creatures of habit,, so you want to nip this habit in the bud as soon as possible...... good luckk this method has never failed... so go get his toy box all set up
Reply:It%26#039;s almost impossible to get a puppy to stop chewing, especially at that age. He is most likely teething. The best thing to do is to get him some chew toys of his own. Puppies get bored fast, so make sure you have plenty to keep him occupied. You can also try to keep him isolated. Try kennelling him when you%26#039;re not home. This will keep him from harming himself when you%26#039;re not there to watch him. He will out grow of it soon.
Reply:labs are well known for chewing.you could crate himwhen you are out or use a larged roofed pen in out for too long then keep a close eye on the pup when you are in
Reply:My pit/lab mix is 11 months....he eats EVERYTHING in his path also (a necklace, 3 earings, all his toys we%26#039;ve ever bought, corner of the couch, legs of my chairs, wood, wood chips, anything he can reach in the garbage, remote, etc) Hes been getting better as he gets older. All you can do is try to keep doors shut and things put up. When he climbs to get something tell him NO! (mine goes and lays behind the couch when he gets in trouble)
Reply:They should come with warning labels. Some are much worse than others. My last few haven%26#039;t been too bad until my 8 month Nita the last week or 2. I am going to give up leaving her loose in the house when I am not watching. some you can%26#039;t. A mousetrap is very effective in making a dog leave something alone. Most dogs will stay away from anywhere they were surprised by a snap. The best part is that it is not you that is correcting the dog. It works whether you are around or not. The mousetrap is very patient and is always on task as long as you reset it.
Better than mousetraps when you aren%26#039;t around is the crate. Other dogs may
not be as bad as the young Labs I am plagued with. Still your house and dog
will be much safer with the dog in a crate when you are away. The dog may be
happier in its den than loose in the house. It relaxes, it feels safe in its
den. It rests, the body slows down reducing the need for water and relieving
its self. Dogs that have been crated all along do very well. Many of them
will rest in their crates even when the door is open. I think the plastic
ones give the dog more of a safe, enclosed den feeling. They are harder for
dogs to open too. Metal ones can be put in a corner or covered with
something the dog can%26#039;t pull in and chew. Select
a crate just big enough for the full grown dog to stretch out in.
Leave it some toys. Perhaps a Kong filled with peanut butter. Don%26#039;t leave
anything in the crate the dog might chew up. It will do fine without even any
bedding. You will come home to a safe dog and a house you can enjoy.
Accidents and damaged possessions are the fault of whoever was watching the puppy. When you are watching it, immediately correct it as soon as it goes for anything except its own toys. In a quiet, but firm voice %26#039;%26#039;Bad dog, its name drop!%26#039;%26#039;. Gently remove what ever and replace it with one of her toys, or if older, hold eye contact until the puppy drops it.
A dog that has not been crated since it was little, make take some work.
Start out just putting its toys and treats in the crate. Praise it for going
in. If you have been able to trust it with any bedding, put that in the crate.
Feed it in the crate. This is also an easy way to maintain order at feeding
time for more than one dog.
Reply:I had a lab for 11 years, she just recently passed. I can assure you that he will grow out if it. You have to remember that he is still a puppy and thats what puppies do. Instead of toys try giving him those really large bones (you can find at petsmart or any pet store) that should take him days to chew on. It will keep him occupied. In the meantime, try putting him in a kennel when you leave so he wont have access to shoes and toys when you%26#039;re gone. Good luck....they are wonderful pets, I miss her so much!
Reply:we have had 4 Labs and yes they do love to chew. Crate him when your not home or else you will continue to come home to chewed up things. The more attention you pay to them the better they are. Give him lots of chew toys with ours they were almost 2 before that stopped but damn they are such good dogs! Good Luck
Reply:Oh boy do I know that feeling. The first day I brought my puppy home he age a pair of shoes through my backpack. You may need to put him in a area where he cannot get at things when you are not home to watch him and correct the behavior. If you do not see him in the act it does not good to correct the behavior when you come home and find it because they can%26#039;t remember what they have done. If you can put him outside while gone or in a locked room. ALso the best way is to keep things out of the range or keep doors closed when not int he room with the puppy. Labs love to chew so I would suggest some chongs, these are really durble and you can put treats in them that keeps the dog busy for quite some time. Peanut butter does really good in a chong. I found that worked best with our chewer and in time he may or may not grow out of it. Lab are natural chewers and some don%26#039;t grow out of them.
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How do I get my 8 month old lab to stop chewing up EVERYTHING?
Labs are world-class chewers and they need things to chew on. They can%26#039;t help it..it%26#039;s just instinct.
You need to get him things that he can use to satisify his chewing urge.
Those big dog bones from the animal shop are good. Don%26#039;t get a butcher shop bone, though, they can splinter.
My dogs also LOVE their Kong toys..and you can put treats or peanut butter in them and that keeps them busy for hours.
There are very few toys my dogs can play with without tearing them up.
Those rope bone tug toys are also good, for a while, anyway.
Don%26#039;t bother with squeaky toys. Your dog will chew them up just to get at the squeaker.
On, and as for getting on the furniture, your dog is not well-trained enough to be running around the house on his own and stealing things. Next, he%26#039;ll EAT the furniture. Trust me. My lab ate up a whole section of carpeting when he was a pup.
You need to confine him to a room where he can%26#039;t do too much harm when you aren%26#039;t able to watch him. When you are able to be with him, you have to teach him the meaning of the word no.
Keep a leash on him. When he goes to get on the furniture, tug it and tell him NO. Never, ever allow him on the furniture, because he%26#039;ll take that as a sign of equality with you. You are the boss.
And keep things out of sight. Out of sight, out of mind. If your daughter%26#039;s Barbies are in a toy chest with a lid sealed, your dog won%26#039;t get to them. If your shoes are in the closet with the door shut, he can%26#039;t chew them.
And if he%26#039;s chewing on something, yell NO and take it away from him, even if by then it%26#039;s ruined. And then give him something he%26#039;s allowed to chew on and praise him for chewing on that instead.
Oh, and my vet says labs don%26#039;t have brains until they%26#039;re about two years old..and then it%26#039;s like the mailman suddenly delivered them.
My lab%26#039;s four years old now and he%26#039;s an angel. My shepherd mix is two, and she%26#039;s pretty good too. However, they are still known to chew up a dog toy or frisbee now and then. So hang in there. Your dog%26#039;s just doing what%26#039;s normal to him..you just have to be smarter.
Reply:we have a lab that used to do the same thing until we got him some pressed rawhides. they dont look like regular rawhides, they are actually formed by using little bits of rawhides encased in a really hard shell
Reply:Welcome to Lab world. Sounds like he%26#039;s bored. An 8 month old need lots of stimulation and activity. He needs to be confined to certain rooms in the house when you are not with him.
I%26#039;m sure he has toys and chew things that belong to him. One thing to do is to get a Kong toy - the black ones are made for large dogs and are almost indestructible- fill it with good stuff and when you catch him chewing something he shouldn%26#039;t , tell him to Leave it and trade for the Kong Toy.
I would definitely enroll him in a dog class. It does wonders for you and your dog. You will learn how to interact with him and give him the proper cues to do what you expect.
Also, be mindful that labs tend to maintain their puppy ways for quite some time - up to 2 years or sometimes longer. They are great dogs, but desparately need training, activity and positive attention.
Good luck to both of you.
Reply:I have a 3 month old black lab and its the same way, everytime I see him he is chewing on something. You just have to keep saying no and crate him when he is bad so he knows that he gets punished for chewing.
Reply:I have a black Lab, and when we first got him he was about 8mnths old too. It just takes time. He doesn%26#039;t chew like crazy anymore. I think it stops when he turns one. Just lock him up in a crate when you leave, and when you%26#039;re not going to be able to keep a close eye on him. My dog loved chewing up sticks, GIJoe dolls, and any stuffed animals. We would see the eyes lying out in the yard the next day! It should be over soon! Just hold in there!
Reply:Ah yes, welcome to owning a lab - They eat everything and anything they can get their paws on! Most items will make they%26#039;re way out the other end in 24 hours time, just make sure you get him to a vet right away if isn%26#039;t going #2 regularly because he might have something blocking his intestines.
You can try Bitter Apple spray, but my lab likes that too (He eats apples off the ground under the tree). Or try a dab of Tabasco on anything you don%26#039;t want him to touch. Otherwise, the best solution is training, training and more training.
Reply:2 things here to do. #1. Remove the accessibility factor. Don%26#039;t leave these around that the dog chews. Put shoes in a closet or shut your bedroom door. Make sure the children put the toys away and out of reach of the dog. #2. Give your dog plenty of his own toys. Labs are notorious chewers, and even if you take temptations away and leave him no/not enough toys, he WILL find something-the corner of a couch, a chair leg, etc. A variety of different type toys need to be available(stuffed toys, rawhides, nylabones, ropes, etc) and if you see him chewing on something hes not supposed to, take that away and offer a toy instead- when he takes it, PRAISE him! My dog was very %26quot;mouthy%26quot; as a puppy, grabbing at our hands etc, and every time he did, i put a toy in his mouth. Now at age 2, when he gets excited and wants to play, he looks around and finds a toy and come back to us- its become a habit for him.
Reply:Oh the memories.... LOL!
Dogs basically chew out of boredom. Like others have said, buy durable toys (like Kongs) that the dog can%26#039;t destruct. Some have the incredible ability to demolish those too (amazingly enough). Try to take your dog for a walk daily. I know in some places it is near impossible now, but try to get your dog out to release some energy.
The key is to redirect their focus on something else. Kongs with peanut butter inside %26amp; nylabones are my favorite. Also, if your dog is going to be unattended, make sure you have a crate or somewhere you can confine him so he isn%26#039;t left alone to destroy more things!
Good luck!
Reply:NEUTER FIRST,, then obedience classes,,,, then lots and lots of exercise - retrieving, swimming, running....... next get a bucket or basket.... put it in a place in your home that the dog has access too.... fill it up with appropriate toys, tennis balls, bones, nylabones, kongs etc... when you dog starts chewing innappropriately,, say %26quot;UT UH%26quot; in a loud stern voice,,, remove the undesirable object and then take him over to %26quot;his%26quot; toy bucket.. and offer him /show him %26quot;his toys%26quot; this will only take a day or two to teach...... also,,, if you are not home,, crate your pup.. dogs are creatures of habit,, so you want to nip this habit in the bud as soon as possible...... good luckk this method has never failed... so go get his toy box all set up
Reply:It%26#039;s almost impossible to get a puppy to stop chewing, especially at that age. He is most likely teething. The best thing to do is to get him some chew toys of his own. Puppies get bored fast, so make sure you have plenty to keep him occupied. You can also try to keep him isolated. Try kennelling him when you%26#039;re not home. This will keep him from harming himself when you%26#039;re not there to watch him. He will out grow of it soon.
Reply:labs are well known for chewing.you could crate himwhen you are out or use a larged roofed pen in out for too long then keep a close eye on the pup when you are in
Reply:My pit/lab mix is 11 months....he eats EVERYTHING in his path also (a necklace, 3 earings, all his toys we%26#039;ve ever bought, corner of the couch, legs of my chairs, wood, wood chips, anything he can reach in the garbage, remote, etc) Hes been getting better as he gets older. All you can do is try to keep doors shut and things put up. When he climbs to get something tell him NO! (mine goes and lays behind the couch when he gets in trouble)
Reply:They should come with warning labels. Some are much worse than others. My last few haven%26#039;t been too bad until my 8 month Nita the last week or 2. I am going to give up leaving her loose in the house when I am not watching. some you can%26#039;t. A mousetrap is very effective in making a dog leave something alone. Most dogs will stay away from anywhere they were surprised by a snap. The best part is that it is not you that is correcting the dog. It works whether you are around or not. The mousetrap is very patient and is always on task as long as you reset it.
Better than mousetraps when you aren%26#039;t around is the crate. Other dogs may
not be as bad as the young Labs I am plagued with. Still your house and dog
will be much safer with the dog in a crate when you are away. The dog may be
happier in its den than loose in the house. It relaxes, it feels safe in its
den. It rests, the body slows down reducing the need for water and relieving
its self. Dogs that have been crated all along do very well. Many of them
will rest in their crates even when the door is open. I think the plastic
ones give the dog more of a safe, enclosed den feeling. They are harder for
dogs to open too. Metal ones can be put in a corner or covered with
something the dog can%26#039;t pull in and chew. Select
a crate just big enough for the full grown dog to stretch out in.
Leave it some toys. Perhaps a Kong filled with peanut butter. Don%26#039;t leave
anything in the crate the dog might chew up. It will do fine without even any
bedding. You will come home to a safe dog and a house you can enjoy.
Accidents and damaged possessions are the fault of whoever was watching the puppy. When you are watching it, immediately correct it as soon as it goes for anything except its own toys. In a quiet, but firm voice %26#039;%26#039;Bad dog, its name drop!%26#039;%26#039;. Gently remove what ever and replace it with one of her toys, or if older, hold eye contact until the puppy drops it.
A dog that has not been crated since it was little, make take some work.
Start out just putting its toys and treats in the crate. Praise it for going
in. If you have been able to trust it with any bedding, put that in the crate.
Feed it in the crate. This is also an easy way to maintain order at feeding
time for more than one dog.
Reply:I had a lab for 11 years, she just recently passed. I can assure you that he will grow out if it. You have to remember that he is still a puppy and thats what puppies do. Instead of toys try giving him those really large bones (you can find at petsmart or any pet store) that should take him days to chew on. It will keep him occupied. In the meantime, try putting him in a kennel when you leave so he wont have access to shoes and toys when you%26#039;re gone. Good luck....they are wonderful pets, I miss her so much!
Reply:we have had 4 Labs and yes they do love to chew. Crate him when your not home or else you will continue to come home to chewed up things. The more attention you pay to them the better they are. Give him lots of chew toys with ours they were almost 2 before that stopped but damn they are such good dogs! Good Luck
Reply:Oh boy do I know that feeling. The first day I brought my puppy home he age a pair of shoes through my backpack. You may need to put him in a area where he cannot get at things when you are not home to watch him and correct the behavior. If you do not see him in the act it does not good to correct the behavior when you come home and find it because they can%26#039;t remember what they have done. If you can put him outside while gone or in a locked room. ALso the best way is to keep things out of the range or keep doors closed when not int he room with the puppy. Labs love to chew so I would suggest some chongs, these are really durble and you can put treats in them that keeps the dog busy for quite some time. Peanut butter does really good in a chong. I found that worked best with our chewer and in time he may or may not grow out of it. Lab are natural chewers and some don%26#039;t grow out of them.
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Friend advice?
I made friends with a woman I met at my child%26#039;s nursery. Although we are very different the kids get on really well and we meet regularly. I feel like I am more of a friend to her than the other way round at times. The issue is that she did not even get me a card for my 40th, did not get me anything when I got married this August after saying both times that she was looking for something and would buy us a present soon! I do not expect it from people but I feel that she has made no effort and has made too many promises. For eg she was going to help me buy shoes for the wedding, help me on the day, etc but nothing materialised - same as the presents or cards. I have made her and her child as well as husband dinner and lunch on many, many occasions but this is hardly ever reciprocated. So I feel that I give a lot and do not get much back. I feel really pissed off basically and wonder what others would do in such a situation. Also she is about to move miles away in 3 wks time.
Friend advice?
Sadly there are two sorts of people on this planet, takers and givers. Your friend obviously is the former and whilst she thinks she is being nice to you by making these promises, she actually cannot bring herself to deliver. May be she is just lazy or she is short of cash and cannot afford the expense, though making a birthday card is hardly rocket science and to help for a wedding costs nothing. Is she a air head? She may have good intentions but forgets...
Your last sentence is the key to get out of your problem. She is moving a long way away. You do not have to invite her round any more, or cook for her and her family. See if she gets in touch with you after she has moved. Don%26#039;t take the first step. The chances are that she will turn to someone else to provide the support you have been giving her as it will be more convenient. She is no great loss as a friend, and a generous and kind person like yourself will not find any difficulty in finding a new friend.
When she goes, wish her well, but do not buy her a leaving present. Just limit yourself to a %26quot;Hope you will be happy in your new home%26quot; note or card, then wait and see...You may get the odd telephone call, but I am convinced this will be rare and short lived.
Put the whole thing behind you and do not demean yourself by giving her a piece of your mind before she leaves. You have the strongest moral ground and have nothing to be ashamed of for dropping her in the circumstances. If she is too insensitive to realise she has been exploiting you and has given very little in return, she is not worth the heartache. She may realise when she has settled in her new home, but I would really not recommend re-energising relations. You are on a hiding to nothing. Let it go !
Reply:Then stop giving so much. And make her on the same level you%26#039;re feeling right now until she understands.
Reply:A blank promise is pissing off,I understand,you just let her go,what else can you expect in such a person?
Reply:with out sounding horrible i think that you should just cut your losses when she moves,i am sure that there are better people out there. a friend should always keep promises
Reply:I agree with Gone Car. As far as the not giving so much, I do not think you will ever loose from being kind. On the other hand, having a bit of limits never hurts.
Since she will be moving soon, again, there is something in yet another poster%26#039;s statement that you might as well carry on as usual. Why bother to hurt all the good feelings? You may have done something to really help the other woman!
Gee, I am really agreeable lately...
Applauding a genuinely good person. I bet you are a great mum!
Reply:what a kind hearted woman you are, and what a shame she is moving away in 3 weeks time as there is not much you can do in this short space of time. what a selfish greedy so and so this woman is and she will mince somebody else in her new area so you need to be glad in a way your out of it! my god she got what she could out of you and took greed on your soft kind nature. she is no friend good ridance to her!
Reply:hi, to be a friend is to be there for each other not just for material things but for moral support and a shoulder to cry on and to have a natter ...your friend seems to be using you a little...seeing that she is moving away from you in a few weeks i would just keep trying to make excuses up to why you haven%26#039;t been round or why she can%26#039;t come round and hope that three weeks comes sooner rather than later...you seem like a very nice person doing all that for her so you shouldn%26#039;t find it too hard to make a new friend and with any luck they will be as nice to you as you are to them...good luck
Reply:Seems like your friend doesn%26#039;t appreciate you and your friendship. If she couldn%26#039;t even help u out on your wedding day or just be there for u, then she is no friend. Don%26#039;t expect anything in return from her, because she is selfish and truthfully I don%26#039;t think she cares that she hurts your feelings. All she is doing is hurting you, you are a good friend to her and she%26#039;s taking that to the advantage. Have a talk with her before she leaves and let her know exactly how u feel, don%26#039;t hold anything back, if u don%26#039;t tell her how will she know. If things remain the same between the two n she has yet made no effort, let her go. It will be her lost not yours. Believe me, she%26#039;ll realize how good of a friend you were to her when she moves.
Reply:Seeing that she is about to move away i%26#039;d just try and forget about what has happened. Maybe she is just a bit of a scatter brain when offering help and saying that she%26#039;ll buy presents. Some people want to do things but have no organisable skills. I know i%26#039;ve done it in the past.
Reply:You would be better off not to expect any thing from her. She seems like a person who may be too busy doing what she does. But wants to help you which may be genuine. I do agree that you have invited them for dinner and lunch it should have been reciprocated. Unfortunately some people are like that. Take no notice be happy and stay happy
Reply:tell her how you feel about this. and if she gets mad at you, she wasnt a friend worth having and is not a friend worth keeping. but if you can, you might still want to keep in touch, you know, for the children%26#039;s sake.
Reply:well, if you gave her all those things and keep having the thought in your mind that she must pay back, of course you%26#039;re pissed off!
if you in the other hand, keep giving her, without wanting her to give back to you, then you%26#039;ll be good.
try to be sincere when you give someone whatever it is you%26#039;re giving.
kmdi
Friend advice?
Sadly there are two sorts of people on this planet, takers and givers. Your friend obviously is the former and whilst she thinks she is being nice to you by making these promises, she actually cannot bring herself to deliver. May be she is just lazy or she is short of cash and cannot afford the expense, though making a birthday card is hardly rocket science and to help for a wedding costs nothing. Is she a air head? She may have good intentions but forgets...
Your last sentence is the key to get out of your problem. She is moving a long way away. You do not have to invite her round any more, or cook for her and her family. See if she gets in touch with you after she has moved. Don%26#039;t take the first step. The chances are that she will turn to someone else to provide the support you have been giving her as it will be more convenient. She is no great loss as a friend, and a generous and kind person like yourself will not find any difficulty in finding a new friend.
When she goes, wish her well, but do not buy her a leaving present. Just limit yourself to a %26quot;Hope you will be happy in your new home%26quot; note or card, then wait and see...You may get the odd telephone call, but I am convinced this will be rare and short lived.
Put the whole thing behind you and do not demean yourself by giving her a piece of your mind before she leaves. You have the strongest moral ground and have nothing to be ashamed of for dropping her in the circumstances. If she is too insensitive to realise she has been exploiting you and has given very little in return, she is not worth the heartache. She may realise when she has settled in her new home, but I would really not recommend re-energising relations. You are on a hiding to nothing. Let it go !
Reply:Then stop giving so much. And make her on the same level you%26#039;re feeling right now until she understands.
Reply:A blank promise is pissing off,I understand,you just let her go,what else can you expect in such a person?
Reply:with out sounding horrible i think that you should just cut your losses when she moves,i am sure that there are better people out there. a friend should always keep promises
Reply:I agree with Gone Car. As far as the not giving so much, I do not think you will ever loose from being kind. On the other hand, having a bit of limits never hurts.
Since she will be moving soon, again, there is something in yet another poster%26#039;s statement that you might as well carry on as usual. Why bother to hurt all the good feelings? You may have done something to really help the other woman!
Gee, I am really agreeable lately...
Applauding a genuinely good person. I bet you are a great mum!
Reply:what a kind hearted woman you are, and what a shame she is moving away in 3 weeks time as there is not much you can do in this short space of time. what a selfish greedy so and so this woman is and she will mince somebody else in her new area so you need to be glad in a way your out of it! my god she got what she could out of you and took greed on your soft kind nature. she is no friend good ridance to her!
Reply:hi, to be a friend is to be there for each other not just for material things but for moral support and a shoulder to cry on and to have a natter ...your friend seems to be using you a little...seeing that she is moving away from you in a few weeks i would just keep trying to make excuses up to why you haven%26#039;t been round or why she can%26#039;t come round and hope that three weeks comes sooner rather than later...you seem like a very nice person doing all that for her so you shouldn%26#039;t find it too hard to make a new friend and with any luck they will be as nice to you as you are to them...good luck
Reply:Seems like your friend doesn%26#039;t appreciate you and your friendship. If she couldn%26#039;t even help u out on your wedding day or just be there for u, then she is no friend. Don%26#039;t expect anything in return from her, because she is selfish and truthfully I don%26#039;t think she cares that she hurts your feelings. All she is doing is hurting you, you are a good friend to her and she%26#039;s taking that to the advantage. Have a talk with her before she leaves and let her know exactly how u feel, don%26#039;t hold anything back, if u don%26#039;t tell her how will she know. If things remain the same between the two n she has yet made no effort, let her go. It will be her lost not yours. Believe me, she%26#039;ll realize how good of a friend you were to her when she moves.
Reply:Seeing that she is about to move away i%26#039;d just try and forget about what has happened. Maybe she is just a bit of a scatter brain when offering help and saying that she%26#039;ll buy presents. Some people want to do things but have no organisable skills. I know i%26#039;ve done it in the past.
Reply:You would be better off not to expect any thing from her. She seems like a person who may be too busy doing what she does. But wants to help you which may be genuine. I do agree that you have invited them for dinner and lunch it should have been reciprocated. Unfortunately some people are like that. Take no notice be happy and stay happy
Reply:tell her how you feel about this. and if she gets mad at you, she wasnt a friend worth having and is not a friend worth keeping. but if you can, you might still want to keep in touch, you know, for the children%26#039;s sake.
Reply:well, if you gave her all those things and keep having the thought in your mind that she must pay back, of course you%26#039;re pissed off!
if you in the other hand, keep giving her, without wanting her to give back to you, then you%26#039;ll be good.
try to be sincere when you give someone whatever it is you%26#039;re giving.
kmdi
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