Why do most men think that if you are a single mother you're looking for a father for your child?

Why do some men think that if they met a women with a child are kid%26#039;s that the women just wants someone to take care of her kid%26#039;s?Have it ever dawned on you that the father is in the child%26#039;s life or if he isn%26#039;t that we can take care of our own child?What men need to realize is that just because she have a child doesn%26#039;t mean that she is trying to make you replace her baby%26#039;s father or make you take own any responsibilty that the child%26#039;s father should be responsibile for,but if you are interested in a lady with children her child comes first so you will half to respect the fact that the child is their if you want any dealings with that woman at all (notice before you respond i said some men)and if you are offended put the shoe on and where it with PRIDE????????????

Why do most men think that if you are a single mother you%26#039;re looking for a father for your child?
Well, when I show up at their house to pick them up on a date, and they show up at the door in a wedding gown with veil and a bouquet and they say %26quot;I%26#039;m ready,%26quot; I kind of assume that they are looking for a new daddy for their kids. Guys aren%26#039;t as dense as you think; we pick up on subtle hints!
Reply:I%26#039;ve been married for 15 years so I%26#039;m probably of no help to you! I guess things have changed in the past decade : )
Reply:Probably cuz they have dealt with a women whose purpose was to throw their child on the man or expect him to be father figure. Im not saying that%26#039;s always the case but im just giving you a reason. And also they might feel that a chilfd should have a father so they automatically asume that%26#039;s what you are looking for or what you really need . And tey don%26#039;t want to or can%26#039;t be responsible for that. I mean it%26#039;s what you might call a streotype for single mothers. But think inorder for a streotype to exists it had to be thought of or actually proved in someones life or experience. Not saying it makes it right but just taking the situation from another perspective.
Reply:okay...
Reply:If I were a single mom, I would ONLY date men who were serious about me, my child, and the possibility of becoming a family.


I hate single moms who date around, seeing lots of men and settling for less just to %26quot;not scare%26quot; a %26quot;man%26quot; away. They embarass all single moms. What kind of messed-up example is that???


I understand the need to still feel strong and independant, but with a child you MUST raise you standards.


Kids notice everything...
Reply:A lot of men are %26#039;fixers%26#039;. Myself included. We see what we may think is a problem, and there is a feeling to fix what%26#039;s wrong with it. My wife loves it that I try to fix things most of the time, sometimes though, she can see that when it%26#039;s something I don%26#039;t understand then it annoys the crap out of her. She has 2 children herself by different men, but I didn%26#039;t feel the need to help her because she is a strong independant woman herself. I didn%26#039;t want to meet her children actually so that I could get to know her, and if things did not work out then we could both move on. I%26#039;ve been in that pitfall before, and for years after I broke up with the girl I still sent the child birthday/christmas gifts. After my wife and I realised we had something real she and I began the tedious road of introducing me to her teenage daughters. It has all worked out well, and now her daughters call me dad just as if I have been there all my life.
Reply:OK these ppl are stupid, you are not a gold digger etc. I am sure most single mothers were in relationships that didnt work out for one reason or another but have children. I dont know why men assume this, when I meet a guy with kids I dont assume they need a mother, so wtf. but if men think this and run or avoid then you%26#039;re better off. jerks!!!!
Reply:I%26#039;m sure you%26#039;d be meeting better men if you%26#039;d learn how to speak better. You%26#039;re spelling is bad, so you%26#039;re english is probably bad too. If you improve your speech, you%26#039;ll meet better people, and not just men who are afraid of becoming an %26quot;instant dad.%26quot;
Reply:If you show yourself as an independant woman then men will respect that in you. Most men want to %26#039;date%26#039; and not even think about the future and a child already in the scenerio makes them think of the future!
Reply:The problem I am seeing is unless you are dating someone where it is understood that it will never be serious, that man will at some point be put into the step father role.
Reply:The reason why %26#039;most%26#039; men think this is because %26#039;most%26#039; women are not only looking for a boyfriend/husband, but also someone to %26#039;act%26#039; as a father or at least provide %26#039;fatherly guidance%26#039;.





Wake up and join the rest of the real world Joanne. Your opinion is in a fantasy world. Just try to date a single mother and not provide ANY fatherly duties and see how long before that single mother calls you out on it. I%26#039;ve been there and trust me....you%26#039;re wrong.
Reply:BECAUSE there small minded n selfish n they always seem to think that us woman need them n cant do nothing on our own HUH couldnt be more wrong
Reply:Because they usually are ,,, tramps
Reply:Well are%26#039;nt you. gold digger...



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